Searching for a soulmate can be a difficult process.
- Do you feel like you will never find someone?
- Are you tired of wasting your time on people that don’t work out?
- Are you tired of feeling alone?
Trust me I understand this feeling, but I want you to know something. Every single person on this Earth deserves to experience a love that makes them feel safe, valued and heard.
That’s exactly why I’m giving you these 9 amazing tips on how to manifest your soulmate AND the secret to love (number 7). Let’s get straight into it.
How to Manifest Your Soulmate
1. Get specific about what you want in a partner
Ok, you want to learn how to manifest your soulmate, but who is your soulmate?
Don’t answer with a specific person in mind, rather answer with specific qualities in mind.
Ask yourself things such as,
- What values, morals, and ethics do they have?
- What’s something they do on a daily basis?
- What do both of you have in common?
- How do they present themselves to the world?
And while we’re on the topic of getting to know what you want in a partner, also use this time to figure out what you don’t want in a soulmate. Things such as
- No integrity
- Relies on bad habits
You need to know not only what you want in your soulmate, but what you don’t want so you can weave out the people who aren’t for you. This is also going to save you from wasting your time and energy.
2. Take time to heal
If you’re anything like me, you’ve been scarred from your past experiences in searching for a partner. Dealing with people
- Acting one way and saying another
- Ghosting you
- Being inconsistent
- Being inconsiderate
can be discouraging and exhausting.
These types of experiences are the ones that make you feel like nobody is out there for you. I, myself, have wondered, “maybe I’m not meant to be in a relationship.” But, here’s the good news, the love that you seek is the love that is meant for you.
You wouldn’t have the desire to experience that type of love if it wasn’t meant for you. With that being said, it can feel like a waiting game, but it is not. It’s a preparation game.
Use this as an opportunity to work through any limiting beliefs and negative thoughts. Some limiting beliefs may look like
- “I will never be in a relationship”
- “Maybe I’m not supposed to be in a relationship”
- “I’m not worthy of love”
Identify the root of those limiting beliefs.
- What has happened in the past that made you feel like love wasn’t for you?
- Who/what has caused me to feel like I don’t deserve to have a soulmate?
- Who is telling me these negative thoughts?
Use this as the time to prepare for your dream partner to enter your life because if you don’t you may drag old feelings into a new chapter in your life, which could be the demise of your relationship.
3. Ask yourself this
- Why is it important to me to be in a relationship?
- How would being in a relationship make me feel?
- What am I trying to get out of a relationship that I can’t give myself?
- Why is it so important that I have those qualities in a partner (from number one)?
- What is the most important thing that I get out of this relationship?
- What is a deal-breaker for me?
Learning how to attract your soulmate requires you to know the root of your desire. Understanding the root of your desire is what’s going to get you aligned with it.
If you don’t even know why you want to be in a healthy relationship, then why are you trying to be in one? The answer to that is more than likely because you don’t want to be alone/single, which is understandable, but why?
- Why are you not okay with being alone?
- What are you afraid of happening if you are alone?
Not everyone suffers from this; however, I know a lot of people that feel this way and don’t even realize it. I also feel the need to remind you that eventually, you need to spend time alone. It’s not healthy to
- wrap your entire identity in being in a relationship
- not know who you are
- never spend any time by yourself
You will never know who you truly are and what you’re capable of accomplishing if you never get to know yourself.
4. Visualize it
Get in a comfortable, quiet space and visualize what life would be like with your soulmate.
More specifically, how would you feel when your partner is in your life, in the present day?
- How would you feel when you’re in his/her presence?
- What is something y’all enjoy doing together?
- How does your soulmate treat you?
- How does your soulmate talk to you?
- How do you talk to your soulmate?
Notice how I’m not mentioning physical features?
While it’s great to know what you’re attracted to, sometimes the person that is good for you, in the long run, doesn’t look how you’d think they would look. Don’t get so caught up in what your soulmate looks like because looks make up about 5% of what your relationship is really about.
Alright, you’ve asked and answered all of the questions you could possibly think of, now here’s the hard part. You have to believe.
You have to believe that your soulmate will be amongst many of the men/women you will come across in your life, even when it doesn’t seem like it will happen. That’s why this is the hard part because you will have circumstances in life that literally point to you not finding your soulmate. Keep persevering. Remember that this isn’t a waiting game; it’s a preparation game.
- This is an opportunity for you to prepare for a love that you’ve never experienced before.
- This is an opportunity for you to heal any open wounds so you don’t sabotage your next relationship.
- This is an opportunity to get to know yourself so you don’t allow another person to take over your entire life.
- This is an opportunity to not make the same mistake twice.
Be grateful that you have this time to prepare. When you see a happy couple on the streets, be grateful for a sign that that kind of love is on its way to you. Use this as an opportunity to trust God.
6. Put some action behind it
Go out there and mingle you little single pringle.
All jokes aside, you need to put yourself out there. Now, I’m not recommending dating apps because 95% of people that go on dating apps don’t seem to be looking for anything long-term. Dating apps seem to be more of a short-term solution, and looking for a soulmate is a long-term game. The two don’t add up. However, a really effective way to put yourself out there is by partaking in some of the things you already love doing. The reason why is because
- You’re putting yourself in an environment where you’re happy and
- If you did so happen to meet your soulmate there you already know you have one thing in common. Plus, you need to be spending some time with yourself.
Remember how I said this is an opportunity to get to know yourself?
Now is the perfect time to either expand on hobbies you already love to do or find a new hobby you love. Here are some ideas:
- Going out to restaurants/bars
- Going to the movies
- Join an organization such as a volunteering group or a book club
- Go out in nature
- Travel somewhere new
- Find new places in your city
If you want to figure out how to manifest your soulmate you have to put yourself out there.
7. Manifest love for yourself
Since we’re on the topic of things you love to do, let’s talk about things you love about yourself.
Most of you will probably do the same thing I did, jump straight to the fact that you don’t know what you love about yourself or worse, say you don’t have anything you love about yourself.
Let me ask you something, how could you expect your soulmate to love you properly when you don’t even know how to love you properly?
Even if they did, by chance, know how to love you the way you need to be loved (yes, there are different ways people need love ) how are you going to be able to receive this type of love when you can’t even do it by yourself?
That’s the caveat with love, it doesn’t work unless you love yourself. This is the secret to love; you MUST love yourself first.
You could be surrounded by the greatest people in the world, but it won’t matter if you hate yourself. You could be surrounded by the most loving people in the world; it won’t matter if you don’t know what to do with it and I know you wouldn’t know what to do with it because you don’t even know what to do with the love that’s already inside of you.
Before trying to expand on a love that doesn’t exist, go back to the drawing board. You have to go back to the drawing board because if you try to expand on a love that doesn’t exist you will fail miserably.
Learn to love something about yourself. That might be
- How well you handle stress
- The way you communicate
- Your style
- Your personality
- Your versatility
- Your level of discipline
- Your carefreeness
There are so many things about you that are worth loving. If that list didn’t inspire any thoughts, then check out this person’s list or go ask someone who knows you best what they love about you and go from there.
8. Don’t be resistant
Don’t sabotage yourself. Yes, you can sabotage yourself, and the quickest way to do this is by being strict about what you want and giving no room for God to show out in your life.
See, God knows what we want. God knows what’s in our hearts, but what we want may not be what we need. You may be wondering why I keep bringing up God when I’m talking about manifestation and learning how to manifest your soulmate. Well, it’s because manifestation has a lot to do with God, everything on this Earth has a lot to do with God but that’s another article for another day.
Manifestation is all about bringing what’s in your mind, into your reality.
People love referencing the Law of Attraction, which is a great concept don’t get me wrong, but they never really mention God which I find odd because without God none of this would even be possible.
Why am I going off on this tangent? Because you need to understand that everything on your list may not be everything you actually need. Sometimes things don’t work out the way we thought they would, but things always work out the way they’re supposed to.
Don’t get in your own way and start rejecting people left and right because they’re not the rapper you thought they would be or because they’re shorter than you thought they would be. You very well may not get everything you asked for on your list and that’s okay because you weren’t asking for a barbie doll, you’re manifesting your soulmate.
9. Be patient
Remember, everything happens for a reason. God’s timing is always on time. You need to be patient.
This is the most important process of learning how to manifest your soulmate because if you get too eager, you’re going to jump into the first relationship where someone gives you the type of attention you desire.
Slow down and take your time because remember this is a preparation game.
You’re single at this point for a reason. You have your own work you need to do before you need to be in another relationship. That work doesn’t mean you’re not worthy to manifest your soulmate, it means you need to level up. If you want a partner who has leveled up, then you yourself need to level up.
Get aligned with what it is you want out of life, and you will have it in due time. No doubt about it.