How To Find Yourself Again | Guaranteed Results In 30 Days

Do you feel like you don’t recognize yourself anymore? Tired of saying “yes” to things you want to say “no” to?

Tired of feeling like you don’t have enough time for yourself?

Well, that’s about to change.

Learning how to find yourself again is a lot easier than you think it is, and I’m going to explain how in 5 simple steps.

No more crying yourself to sleep. No more brain fog. And no more moving on autopilot.

We’re going to get your life back.

Your spark is not gone; it’s buried underneath a bunch of stuff that doesn’t really matter.

I’m going to show you how to dig it back up and keep it… for good.

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How To Find Yourself Again In 5 Simple Steps

1. Slow Down

When you’re learning how to find yourself again, the very first thing you need to do is take a moment to slow down and cut out unnecessary noise both externally and internally.

There are 3 easy ways you can do this:

Meditate
Yoga
Walk outside with no music for 10 minutes

All 3 of these things will automatically force you to slow down, and I know this because I do all 3 of these things when I need to slow down.

When I was at one of my lowest points in life, these 3 things brought me back to my center, even when I didn’t know what my center was.

Slowing down will help you cut out unnecessary thoughts and help you focus on what is most important right now: you.

2. Use Journal Prompts & Don’t Judge Any Of Your Answers

The best way to find yourself again is by asking yourself the right questions, and the best way to find the right questions is by finding really good journal prompts.

If you don’t know where to get the best journal prompts, no worries, I have plenty here.

I recommend starting with one of these:

Journal prompts will provide you with questions you may have never thought to ask yourself and act almost as a mirror to help show you:

Who you really are
What you like
What you don’t like
What you say you want in life versus what you’re actually working towards
And more

I personally use journal prompts every single week, and they have been a complete game-changer.

They’re private and free, and you can do them anywhere. If you don’t do anything else on this list, make sure you do this.

This one simple act (writing in a journal and asking yourself the right questions) will be the one thing to help you discover who you are, why you are the way you are, and make changes if you feel it’s necessary.

3. Start Doing One Thing You Love

Now that you’ve taken a moment to slow down and journal, I want you to think about (and write down) 7 things you love to do/that bring you complete joy.

Go ahead, I’ll wait.

Now, take one of those things off that list and do it today. Not tomorrow, not next week, today.

Don’t say you don’t have time either. Make time.

Get up 10 minutes earlier. Do it on your lunch break. Make time for it in the afternoon. Whatever you choose to do, make time for something you love.

And from here on out, make sure you’re making time for it regularly: either once a day or once a week.

It will not only help you get your groove back but it’s also very therapeutic and keeps you from endlessly scrolling all afternoon.

4. Block Out The Noise

When I say block out the noise I mean all those people in your life who are not motivating you and I also mean all that unnecessary stuff you’re consuming.

Social media
The news
Pointless tv shows
Pointless youtube videos
Music that is making you feel angry, down, depressed, or confused
People going nowhere in life
People with no direction
People who don’t actually like you that much but are only hanging around you because they benefit from it
Pessimistic people

Block it all out because it’s not helping you, it’s actually hurting you.

How do you block it out? Stop doing it.

Stop going around those people, block their numbers, delete the apps, and stop turning on the news.

You cannot learn how to find yourself again with all this noise going on.

5. Be Unapologetic

As you continue to make less room for things that don’t matter and more room for things that do matter, you will run across people who don’t understand what you’re doing and why you’re doing it. And you know what?

That’s okay.

It doesn’t matter whether they understand it or not because this is about you, not them.

Be unapologetically yourself as you continue to get to know yourself.

It doesn’t matter whether they agree with it. It doesn’t matter whether they like it. And it doesn’t matter whether they would be doing what you’re doing.

This is YOUR life. Excuse my French but f**k them and what they have to say.

A Reminder For How To Find Yourself Again

This will be a process with its ups and downs.

Just because you are choosing to take the time to discover yourself, that doesn’t mean that you will feel happy-go-lucky all the time.

It just simply means you are getting to know who you are, what you like, what you don’t like, your boundaries, and what you want for your life, completely free from what other people want you to do with your life.

I know these steps seem way simpler than some of you were hoping for, but I’m not here to regurgitate nonsense.

I’m here to give you the cold hard facts and tell you what I know works.

5 Secret Reasons You May Feel Lost

I mean no harm when I say these things, but in order to fix the issue we need to get to the root cause. And in order to get to the root cause we need to be honest with ourselves.

Being honest with ourselves does NOT include judging ourselves or our answers.

For some of you, this is going to be difficult to do, but it is doable.

As you go through this section please refrain from judging yourself and instead take a non-judgemental approach.

As soon as you start to feel the judginess come on, remind yourself now is not the time to be a judge. Now is the time to be an observer.

Don’t criticize, complain, condemn, judge, or anything of the sort. Just be honest with yourself, no one else besides you will know your thoughts/answers anyway.

1. You’re Around People Who Are Draining You

One of the most common ways to lose yourself is to be around draining, negative, toxic people.

And the reason why is because those people typically tend to drain the life out of you causing you to feel directionless, hopeless, exhausted, and miserable.

They are able to do this by latching onto someone who they see has this beautiful light inside of them, so they can temporarily experience that for themself, solve a problem they may have, or both.

It is intentional and usually subtle, at first.

However, the great part is that at any moment of your life, you can choose different.

You do not have to be with or around anyone, and you especially do not have to be with someone who is draining your:

Time
Energy
Resources

You deserve so much more than that.

Personal tip from me to you: No one, and I mean absolutely no one, can take your light away from you. They can try their absolute hardest but they can’t because that was a gift directly from God to you.

It is yours to keep. And it is never gone, it can only be buried underneath something else.

Learn More: Best Way To Manifest Good Energy (Proven Results)

2. You’re Making Time For Things That Aren’t Really Important To You

Another common reason why you lost yourself is because you made a lot of time for a whole bunch of nothing. I’m talking about things that aren’t really that important to you.

This could be because:

You keep saying “yes” to things that you really want to say “no” to
You lack focus
You haven’t given yourself any clear direction

I hate to be the bearer of bad news (not really) but you are the only one who can change this.

You have to be the one who puts your foot down. You have to be the one to tell yourself “I need to get back focused” and you have to be the one to give yourself a sense of direction.

No one else is going to do it for you.

If learning how to find yourself again is truly important to you, then you must start making more time for things that are important to you.

3. You‘ve Made Someone Else’s Life Your Life

Making someone else’s life your life is very easy to do when you’re around a toxic person/family.

Making someone else’s life your life can look like:

Doing everything they like to do and never doing anything you like to do
Being their “yes” woman/man
Saying “yes” to everything they want to do
Being their personal doormat or punching bag with zero boundaries for yourself
Never speaking up about what you want/like
Accepting everything they throw your way

These things are stealing your life and your time. You deserve to have a life too.

If you can’t be with someone where both of y’alls lives, boundaries, and preferences can be considered, then you don’t need to be with him/her.

They’re not worth it, I’m telling you.

If you’re a mom then this does not apply because in a sense, you have to make someone else’s life your life, at least for a while. Here are some resources on how to find yourself again if you’re a mom.

4. You’ve Never Gotten To Know Yourself In The First Place

Another potential reason why you’ve lost yourself is because you never got to know yourself in the first place.

This is usually because of 3 reasons:

You grew up with a toxic manipulative parent who never let you flourish
You got into a toxic relationship very early in life and that’s all you’re used to (for now)
A combination of the two

Unfortunately, there is no clear-cut way to solve these issues because both of these things alone can cause some serious trauma in your life that can take a minute to unpack and sometimes even require a good therapist to help you work through it.

If you’re interested in therapy, I have a 20% discount for Online-Therapy (use the code THERAPY20).

But I want to remind you, regardless of whether you choose to try therapy, you can unpack the trauma, you can grow from this, and you can choose something different for you and your future family.

You’ve already started the process by being here.

5. You Haven’t Taken Time To Understand Your Boundaries

Last but not least, another reason why you are where you are is because you never took the time to get to know your own boundaries.

This could be for the reasons above or it could be because you didn’t know you even needed to.

It’s easy to get caught up with what everyone else is doing, thinking, saying, eating, wearing, what they like, etc, especially with social media today.

But, being caught up in all of those things can cause you to never get to know who you are, what you like, what your preferences are, etc.

Fortunately, though, this is one of the easiest issues to fix on this list because it’s just a matter of making more time for yourself and less time figuring out other people.

It’s okay to take notice of what other people are doing, but when you make it your whole life or when you consume it all the time, you start entering into dangerous waters.

Exclusive Tips For Finding Yourself Again

Do random things (ex. randomly get lost in your own city)
Intentionally smile more
Laugh at things more
Journal regularly
Sing and dance
Get some sun every single day (10 minutes a day)
Be creative/ create one thing a day (even if it’s just warm tea)
Consume less
Learn how to say “F**k you” more often
Start considering your feelings the way you consider other people’s feelings

Conclusion On How To Find Yourself Again

Learning how to find yourself again is not only possible but it’s 100% doable.

Whether you need to give yourself another 10 minutes in the morning or simply start sitting in the sun more, you can and will find yourself again.

Remember, your spark is never gone, it is simply buried underneath things that don’t matter.

It’s always there for you to pick it back up, and at any moment you are allowed to make a decision that can completely change your life for the better.

Regardless of your past decisions, you are capable of improving your life, mindset, confidence, and health one step at a time.

You are not alone in this.

Keep moving forward and don’t stop moving. I love you and wish you so much happiness and peace.

Comment down below one thing you love to do that you’re going to get back into. I will see you in the next article!

Peace

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