Are you tired of people not taking you seriously? Do you want to learn how to set better boundaries for yourself?
Then you’ve come to the right place.
Affirmations for boundaries are simple sayings to help you become more assertive (not in an a-hole way) and set better boundaries for yourself.
They can not only help you get the ball rolling but they can also serve as a reminder whenever you start to slip back into people-pleasing.
Gone are the days when people run all over you.
Gone are the days when you feel too uncomfortable to put yourself first.
We are onto bigger and better things, so what better way to start this transition than with simple affirmations for boundaries?
Benefits Of Using Affirmations For Boundaries & Developing Better Boundaries
There are some amazing benefits to having boundaries and becoming more assertive including improving your emotional well-being, enriching your relationships, and developing a sense of independence.
But there are also some more realistic benefits to developing your boundaries that only those who used to be people pleasers could understand.
1. Having Time To Do What You Want
As you continue to get better at saying “no” you will free up your time to do what you actually want to do. This includes giving yourself more time to:
- Work on your craft
- Follow a better self-care routine
- Learn a new hobby
- Rest
It’s no longer about doing something because you feel bad/like you have to. It’s about doing something because you either want to or because it’s a priority.
2. You’re Not Stuck Doing Things You Don’t Want To Do
And speaking of having more time to do what you want, you also no longer do things you don’t genuinely want to do.
Of course, this kind of goes without saying, but really sit on that for a second.
Slowly but surely, you’re not stuck and feeling regret (and dread) anymore for saying “yes” to this person when you really wanted to say “no”.
Those moments are completely gone because you put yourself first.
3. Feeling More Accomplished
Each time you say “no”, even if you feel uncomfortable or nervous at first, it feels like a small win, like yea I f**king did that.
Then you feel even more accomplished as you walk away with your time and peace of mind because you didn’t get sucked into someone else’s crap.
And I mean, I don’t mean to be so harsh when I say that, but that’s what it really is when you think about it.
It’s normally someone else’s crap that they’re not dealing with, and they “need” you to help them either fix it, deal with it, or talk about it.
No. We’re not doing that anymore.
What you really need is Jesus; you don’t need me to solve your problems or listen to you dealing with them. That is solely reserved for the people who are there for me, and that’s that. I love you and I hope you have a great day.
Simple.
4. Developing A Sense Of Identity
Another great benefit to having boundaries (and using affirmations for boundaries) is you develop a better sense of identity.
I’m not sure if it’s because you naturally have more time for yourself, you keep gaining more and more confidence as you continue to say “no”, or a combination of the two, but you will develop a better sense of identity and even self-worth.
Your boundaries show you that:
- How you feel is important
- What you want matters
- Who you are is enough
And as you continue to get better and better at maintaining your boundaries, your self-worth and identity will also grow with it.
5. Taking Some Stress Off Your Plate
The last but not least benefit of having better boundaries is that it inevitably takes some stress off your plate.
Between no longer wasting time doing stuff you don’t want to do and no longer worrying about how other people feel (at least not as much as you used to) you can reduce your stress tremendously.
And learning better boundaries for yourself will gradually seep into multiple areas of your life.
- At work
- With your partner
- With yourself
- Other relationships
- In public
Affirmations For Boundaries
- I am enough
- I am worth it
- My time and peace of mind is valuable
- I choose my peace over my point
- I don’t owe anything to anyone
- I am worthy of self-love
- The only approval I need is mine and God’s
- I am allowed to set new boundaries with people
- I am allowed to only give my energy to certain people
- I am confident in what I want
- My time is precious to me
- My priorities are important to me
- It’s okay if we don’t see eye to eye
- I am worthy of having time to rest
- I am allowed to have alone time
- It’s okay if everyone doesn’t like me
- It’s okay if everyone doesn’t approve of me
- My needs are very important
- I am allowed to preserve my energy
- I feel powerful when I honor my boundaries
- Each day I get better and better at maintaining my boundaries
- Each day I get better and better at protecting my peace
- It’s okay for my needs to outweigh someone else’s
- It’s okay for me to set boundaries with the people I love
- Putting myself first does not make me selfish
- Having boundaries is important for my well-being
- I am valuable
- I am confident when I express my needs
- My boundaries do not need to meet other people’s needs
- It’s okay if other people are let down by my boundaries. It’s not about them.
Affirmations For Assertiveness
- I am confident when I am assertive
- Setting boundaries comes naturally to me
- I am allowed to be assertive
- Being assertive does not make me a monster
- I feel proud when I stand up for myself
- My voice matters
- I trust my judgment
- I am brave and unapologetic
- I am free to be who I need to be
- When other people disagree with me, I still respect my own opinion
- I am assertive, clear, and positive
- I am firm yet compassionate
- It’s okay for two things to exist at the same time
- It’s okay for other people to disagree with me
- I let go of guilt and replace it with peace
- People can only hurt me if I allow them to
- People can only run over me if I allow them to
- I can make a difference
- I feel empowered when I say “no”
- I am not responsible for other people’s feelings
- I am capable of handling feelings of discomfort when I say “no”
- I am allowed to decline something that does not align with me
- I say “no” sternly, kindly, and without guilt
- I radiate self-confidence
- I am in charge of my emotional well-being
- Each difficult conversation is an opportunity for growth and deeper connections
- I trust my intuition
- I am composed when I talk about challenging subjects
- I release all feelings of anxiety and replace them with confidence, even if I have to fake it
- I tackle difficult topics with confidence and compassion
Affirmations For Family Problems
- I am allowed to set boundaries with my family
- I do not have to be my parents’ savior
- I do not have to be my family’s savior
- I am not responsible for my parents’ emotions
- I am allowed to choose my own path, even if it’s different than what my family wants for me
- The issues in my family do not define me
- I do not have to be a part of the dysfunction that goes on in my family
- I am allowed to choose a different life path than my family
- I can love my family and still not be around them. Two things can exist at the same time.
- I am free to create my own family
- I am grateful for my family, including those who challenge me to be better
- I am in control of my mindset and responses
- I release the weight of my family’s problems
- I am safe
- I am heard
- I am seen
- I am loved
- I can do this
- I let go of what I can’t control and focus on what I can control
- I accept my family for who they are, but I do not have to be a part of it
- I am allowed to put space between me and my family
- I am allowed to cut off people who continuously disrespect my boundaries
- I don’t owe my family anything
- It’s okay for me and my family to disagree
- It’s okay for me to love my family at a distance
- Being born into the same family does not mean you are entitled to my energy
- I am allowed to give my energy to whoever I want to
- I choose to pour into people who pour into me
- I let go of the destructive habits that are in my family
- I choose to surround myself with love, peace, and harmony
The Best Way To Use Affirmations For Boundaries
Using affirmations for boundaries is very simple. All you want to do is choose 2-3 that stick out to you the most and repeat them at least once a day. That’s it.
The most difficult part about using boundary affirmations is only choosing 2-3, and for this, I recommend choosing up to 15 and then narrowing it down to how many you’ll use for the week.
So for example, let’s say you choose 12 affirmations off this list.
Choose 2-3 to repeat once a day for a week. Then the next week, choose another 2-3 affirmations from your original list of 12.
Thataway you’re not overwhelming yourself and increasing the likelihood of you not keeping up with your affirmations about boundaries.
The Best Way To Set Boundaries
Now that we know the best affirmations for boundaries and assertiveness, I would like to share some of the best ways to set boundaries.
1. Start Small
When you first start setting boundaries, you want to start small and keep it simple. You don’t have to overexplain why you can’t do something.
You don’t even have to offer an explanation at all (if you don’t want to).
A polite “no, thank you” or “no, I can’t this weekend” will do.
If you want to throw in a “but I hope you have a good time” then go for it, but don’t feel the need to explain yourself (if you don’t want to) because you don’t owe anyone anything.
Keep it short, sweet, and simple, and sometimes you don’t need to even keep it sweet.
2. Avoid Answering Questions Too Quickly
The next thing you want to do is avoid answering someone’s question too quickly.
You know what I’m talking about, when someone asks you something that kind of catches you off guard and you just blurt out the answer without fully thinking about it.
Let’s try to avoid that.
And we’re going to avoid this by giving ourselves time to think. It’s okay for you to not answer right away, and it’s okay for you to have awkward silence while you think.
They can wait.
Give yourself time to think about what you want to say, so you can avoid situations you don’t want to be in.
3. Don’t Be Too Hard On Yourself
You also want to avoid being too hard on yourself, especially in situations where you
- Said something the wrong way
- Give into doing something you didn’t want to do
And the reason why is because you’re human and this is a process.
You’re not going to immediately be good at setting boundaries with everyone. It comes with time and practice, and in that time and practice, you will probably make mistakes.
I can’t tell you how many times I did the two things I listed above because I was new at it and I didn’t know how to be assertive like I know how to now.
But as I continued doing it, I got better and better at it and what helped me get there faster was not being too hard on myself and using affirmations for setting boundaries.
4. Get Comfortable With Moving On/Forward
And the best way to not be too hard on yourself is to get comfortable with moving forward.
- You made a mistake and said something wrong? Oh well, I’ll try to do better next time.
- You said “no” in a more rude way than you intended? Apologize, clarify what you meant, and try again the next time.
- You hurt someone’s feelings because you said “no”? Well, it is what it is. We all get our feelings hurt sometimes.
- You let someone down because they needed you but you genuinely didn’t have the bandwidth to do it? It is what it is. You have to do what you have to do, and they more than likely found someone else to do it anyway.
This doesn’t mean you should be an a-hole and never be there for people, especially people who have been there for you.
But what it does mean is that you have to get comfortable with letting people down and still moving forward because the reality is the more you learn how to say “no” the more people you will let down.
You cannot get around it.
It’s either you let them down or you let yourself down sometimes. I don’t want it to be that way, nor do I like it, but sometimes that’s just what it is.
You have to put your priorities and boundaries first, otherwise, people will run all over you and use up all your time if you let them.
So get comfortable with simply moving forward with your day and being okay with disappointing people.
Pro Tip: When you’re in those tough times and don’t know what decision to make, ask yourself “Am I going to feel more disappointed if I let them down or let myself down?” and go from there.
Conclusion On Affirmations For Boundaries
Affirmations for boundaries are the perfect place to start with setting better boundaries for yourself. Putting yourself first doesn’t have to be selfish and it doesn’t have to be “mean”.
It’s just simply doing what’s right for you at that moment.
And before you go, I just want to remind you of something: you do NOT have to people-please. You do NOT have to be a doormat.
It’s one thing if you feel like your purpose down here is to be generous/giving but it’s another thing to be a doormat.
You can be generous and kind without people taking advantage of you and your kindness.
You are allowed to have boundaries, you are allowed for something to be too much for you, and you are allowed to simply not want to do something.
So with that being said, I want to thank you for stopping by and reading. I hope you have an amazing day, and I will catch you in the next article!
Peace
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