So, you’re seeking out to learn how to manifest a best friend?
Congratulations! You’ve made it to the right place.
I want to start off by reassuring you that it is 100% possible for you to manifest an amazing friend into your life.
Why am I so sure of this? Because I used these exact 7 steps to manifest so many amazing friends into my life, so let’s cut to the chase and get straight into it.
How to Manifest a Best Friend
1. Get Rid of the Friends Who Are Not Right for You
The first step in learning how to manifest a best friend is going to be a little tricky, at first. You have to get rid of the people who are not your real friends.
How are you supposed to know who your toxic friends are? Well, you look out for these signs.
You’re going to have to bite the bullet and be honest about who is and who isn’t a good friend to you, so when it does come time for you to enjoy the company of your real friends, they won’t be in the way, potentially sabotaging you.
Yes, some people have so much jealousy/hate in their hearts that they will try to sabotage the good things in your life.
I didn’t realize until years after I had been trying to get them to become friends (so I could obviously live out my childhood cheetah girls dream) that my childhood bff was trying to cause issues between my new bff and I by telling me all of the (superficial) things she didn’t like about her.
Luckily, she wasn’t too convincing in her argument, so she was unsuccessful in her venture.
However, I say that to say this, some people, even those you would least expect, may not have your best intentions in mind and can cause more harm in your life than good.
The longer you keep giving your time and energy to people who couldn’t care less about you, the longer it will take to find your best friend(s).
It’s also important to mention that searching for a friend to match your aesthetic and searching for a good friend will not give you the same results. In the beginning, it may look the same, but when it’s time for them to be there for you is when you will really notice the difference.
It’s okay to want someone to match your aesthetic but don’t think that means they’ll be a good friend because, in my own experience, I can confidently tell you those are two completely different things.
It’s like trying to find a restaurant that has food that would look good for Instagram versus food that tastes like it was made with pure love. You could have both but it’s not likely.
2. Write Down What You Want in a Best Friend
- Do they have a type A personality or type B?
- Do they live in the same area or are they an online friend?
- Do you guys have the same style?
- What do you guys have in common?
- Are they the kind of person that you can take anywhere?
- Do they have a lot of integrity?
- What is something that is really important to them?
Obviously, a lot of these questions you won’t have the answers to right now because y’all haven’t met yet, BUT it’s important to ask yourself these kinds of questions because this is what will determine who you give your time to and who you don’t.
Also, notice how those questions are in the present tense?
That’s because when you’re learning how to manifest something, in this case learning how to manifest a best friend, you should write about it as if it’s in your life today so that your thoughts/feelings are aligned with what you desire.
Why should you align your thoughts/feelings with your desires while manifesting?
Because when you stay in alignment with your desires it not only signals to the universe that you’re ready for it, but it forces you to find opportunities to cash in on that desire in your everyday life. You will soon start to see the things you want in a best friend in others because you’re aligned with that reality.
Now, I know everyone is different so you may want to write about it in the future tense, which is totally fine. But I’m here to help you, not give you general answers, so I’m not suggesting that.
I recommend using the present tense when you’re writing down your manifestations so you can bring them into your life faster.
Of course, when you’re in the process of finding your best friend you’re not going to literally be checking off a physical list, but you will have an idea of what you’re looking for and more specifically what you’re not looking for. As a matter of fact, while we’re on the subject, go ahead and also make a list of what you don’t want in a best friend.
I’ll help you get started. Personally, I do NOT want another friend in my life who lies about any and everything.
Some other examples of what you don’t want in a best friend could be:
- Someone who is rude
- No sense of humor
- Lacks initiative, drive, or motivation
- Someone who is selfish to their core
It’s just as important, if not more, to know what you don’t want to have around you so when someone exhibits this behavior, you’ll automatically know they’re not a good fit for you.
Take Action: Make a T-chart of the qualities you do want in a best friend and qualities you don’t want in a best friend and be specific.
3. Visualize Your Life with Your Best Friend
Now that you’ve got a pretty good idea of what your best friend might look like, visualize your life when you do have a best friend.
- What are some of the things y’all like to do together?
- How often do y’all hang out?
- Do y’all travel a lot or find things to do in your city?
- Do y’all text or talk on the phone more?
- What do y’all talk about?
- Do y’all like to send memes to each other?
I wouldn’t spend too much time in this step, though, (10 minutes should do the job) because when you start to spend too much time imagining your future, you can start to feel down about your current circumstances. We cannot have this because that causes us to become ungrateful, and you can’t manifest your desires from an ungrateful heart.
Use this as a time to not only imagine your future life but to remind yourself of what you’re grateful for in the present as well.
It doesn’t have to be anything too crazy; it could be just 1-2 things.
I’ll go first, something I’m grateful for is my laptop so I can share with you how to manifest a best friend. I’m also grateful for this Colombian coffee that I’m about to drink.
You are not allowed to say you don’t have anything to be grateful for because the fact that you’re reading this means you have internet/data, an electronic device, and functioning eyes. Boom, I just gave you three things.
4. Believe You Will Manifest Your Best Friend
Believing is such an important role in this process because simply believing you can do something significantly increases your odds of you being successful at doing it. I mean, if you don’t believe in yourself then who will?
How could you learn how to manifest a best friend if you don’t actually believe that you can?
This is truly the time for you to be identifying any limiting beliefs.
What are limiting beliefs?
Limiting beliefs are any thoughts or feelings that keep you from or get in the way of you, achieving your goals.
This may look like
- How am I supposed to meet them if I didn’t in the past?
- What if I never have a real best friend?
- Maybe I’m not meant to be close to anyone.
- Maybe I’m not capable of that kind of love.
While it’s great that you’re running through the worst-case scenarios, you also need to be considering the best-case scenarios. Ask yourself, what’s the best that could happen?
If you feel like you’re not capable of believing, ask yourself why?
- What’s something that has happened in the past that has made you feel like it’s not possible for you anymore?
- Why are you holding onto those past negative experiences so much?
- What is a step you can take today to let go of those previous experiences?
And let me remind you that you are 100% capable of getting EVERYTHING you want out of life; the only thing that is holding you back is you.
5. Remind Yourself That You’re Worthy of Manifesting an Amazing Friend
You won’t manifest your best friend if you don’t feel like you’re deserving of them. And even if you did, by chance, manifest them into your life, you’re going to mess it up.
Why? Because you’re going to have this almost perfect friend in your life and you’re not going to know what to do with it because you keep letting your old experiences ruin the new ones.
You are the only person who is responsible for reminding yourself of your worth, and you are the only person responsible for lifting yourself up.
It would be nice if someone else did it, but you can’t always rely on that. You need to learn how to count on yourself.
- Remind yourself of your greatest attributes.
- Remind yourself of what you do best.
- Remind yourself how you deserve all of the love you give to others.
6. Be Patient for Your Manifestation
The moment you decide to learn how to manifest a best friend is not going to be the moment you receive your blessing. That is not how things work.
You can’t plant a seed and expect it to give you fruit the next day.
You have to be realistic, and you have to be patient. If you’re not patient, you’re going to get ahead of yourself and block your own blessings.
I know you’re ready for your manifestation and you don’t want to miss out, but I promise you, that won’t happen. Use this time to:
- Enjoy some of the things you love to do the most
- Learn a new skill
- Pick up an old skill you gave up
- Make it a habit to travel to new cities/states/countries
- Find a new hobby
- Find a new show to watch
But for the love of God do NOT:
- Spend more than 30 minutes (which is pushing it) a day imagining your future
- Lose sight of the amazing things in your life today
- Start living life in your head
Be patient, your miracles are on the way.
7. Don’t Be Too Picky
Yes, be specific. However, if you come across someone who seems like they’re a good fit, but they just so happen to like Harry Styles and you like Lil Baby that doesn’t mean you should automatically write them off.
Even if they do something that really annoys you, but they check off everything else on your list, that still doesn’t mean you should write them off.
No one is perfect, including you.
No one is going to check every box off your list; the goal here is to manifest a friend who is aligned with you, and sometimes the people who are aligned with you are someone you would’ve never expected.
Know what you want but also be open to what’s out there. Chances are your real best friend probably looks nothing like you thought they would OR you’ll meet them in the most unexpected place at the most unexpected time in your life.