Let’s start off with being honest with ourselves; most of us are not patient.
In a world full of people who want everything RIGHT NOW, patience is a skill that is very hard to come by. Because of this, it truly is a virtue.
To master being patient, is to master the wisdom of the world, and you just so happen to be in the right place at the right time.
This article is all about how to be a patient person and ways you can build this habit overtime!
The importance of patience
Patience will expose you to a different perspective of this world.
While everyone else is pissed because the Chick-fil-A line is long, you’re just chilling. No raised blood pressure, no frown lines, and no giving yourself a hemorrhoid.
On a more serious note, being a patient person is more than just being okay with waiting in a long line; it’s a whole lifestyle.
It encourages you to
- Control your emotions
- Become a become person
- Keep your stress levels low
Not to mention, it helps you identify when you’ve come across an opportunity.
Think about it, you’re less likely to notice when you’ve come across a blue diamond when you’re too busy looking for a ruby. Blessings will pass by you like it’s nothing because you’re so focused on what you don’t have yet, instead of appreciating what’s right in front of your face.
And “opportunities” don’t always necessarily mean the exact thing you’re waiting for; most of the time it’s an opportunity to learn and prepare for your blessings.
How to be a patient person
Acceptance is a large portion of this process.
You have to be willing to accept your current situation for what it is, and that things are temporary. You don’t have to like it, but you need to get to grips with it.
Realistically, you’re bound to go through things in life where you’re annoyed, frustrated, and ready to go; that doesn’t mean you have to lose control over your emotions though.
Oftentimes, we get caught up in thinking about either the future or the past.
What am I going to eat for dinner tonight? I have to go back to work on Monday. That person really got on my nerves today.
Very seldom do we remain in the present. It’s hard to do when you’re always caught up in what happened or what hasn’t happened, but that doesn’t mean you can’t apply small ways of being in the moment.
Some easy steps you can take include
- Getting off your phone for a few minutes
- Observing your surroundings for 60 seconds
- Focusing on what you’re actually enjoying in a given moment
Set aside time and mentally prepare yourself to do something that you know is going to get on your nerves.
This is going to do two things.
First, it’s pushing your limits on your comfort zone. And second, it’s showing you that you can handle something that you initially thought you couldn’t.
As you overcome one obstacle, you’ll feel inclined to overcome another one.
Focus on your breathing
Your breathing is the one thing you can control at any given moment.
If you tell yourself to stop and take 3-5 deep breaths, it will force you to focus on something other than what’s bothering you at the moment.
It’s simple and will redirect your attention to something more productive.
Cut out impatient activities
It would really help if you would stop partaking in habits that encourage restless behavior.
This can be things such as
- Scrolling through social media
- Drinking too much caffeine or alcohol
- Going nonstop without rest
You’re going to have a really hard time learning how to be patient while trying to do the above examples at the same time.
Being patient is being mindful. You can’t commit to bad habits and improving yourself, the two don’t go together.
Remind yourself there’s no rush
We don’t know how much time we have left, which, ironically enough, is the exact reason why we need to slow down.
You don’t know if you’re going to be here for the next 60 years, and if so, then there was no need in rushing through your good years.
You don’t know if you’re going to be here for the next 30 days, and if so, there’s no need to rush through your last good experiences.
Slow down and enjoy every moment.
You will miss, or take for granted, so many blessings in your life if you don’t.
How to be more patient
Becoming a patient person will not happen overnight.
It takes time to develop better habits, but a few small steps you can take right now are,
- Dedicating a few minutes to be present
- Focusing on your breathing
- Cutting back on caffeine and/or alcohol
No matter where or when you start, what’s important is that you’re consistent and committed.
Continue pushing yourself beyond your limits and before you know it life will have taken on a whole new meaning.